May 25, 2017
Since summer is coming up fairly quick here, it’s important that you remember to enjoy yourself to the best you can. Let “Summer 2017” be your season to explore the world, expand your horizons, meet new people, party hard each weekend, get lost somewhere, spontaneous car rides to unknown destinations, ice cream runs at 1 AM, early morning jogs or late night walks, or simply chill at home as you finish yet another Netflix show. As a single person, there’s so much you can do within the summer months. So relax, take it easy and enjoy your independence. This summer, just find comfort in your singleness knowing that it’s not “cuffing season” just yet.
What is “cuffing season”?
“During the Fall and Winter months people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be “Cuffed” or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed” (Urban Dictionary, 2017, source).
This summer, I hope you find yourself even more. Let this summer be one in which you allow yourself to be surrounded by joy, fun, adventure, and happiness. If you’re single like me, here’s the best advice I can ever give you for the next 3 summer months: STAY SINGLE.
Trust me, there’s so much to do on your own.
If you’re reading this as someone who’s currently in a relationship, well I still hope you and your partner have an amazing summer too. But for the most part, this post is truly aimed for those who are currently single – especially the ones (like me) who are going through their first summer of being single after many, many, many years of being tied down in a relationship. You see, upon deep reflection about wanting to have someone to share my “Summer 2017” with, I realized that I’m perfectly fine on my own for the season. My summer should not revolve around nobody else but me.
As a student I don’t really have plenty of time to spend socializing and having fun when the Fall and Winter semesters begin. In September, I will enter my 4th and final year in university. I promised myself that my last year as a student will be completely devoted in achieving my academic goals and focusing solely on the foundation of my future career. Thus, it makes sense for a student like me to take advantage of “Summer 2017”. I only get 3 months during the year to take a break from my responsibilities at school. I only get 3 months off from the stress and hard work… so why not make each and every single day in those 3 months count?
For the most part, I truly want to share the next 3 months creating lasting and fun memories with my new and old friends. This summer, I want to create stories worth sharing at my wedding someday. I want great and epic summer stories that will blow my future fiancé’s mind!!! So far, I’m already off to a great start. There has been a few experiences my friends and I had gone through the past month that we all will remember for the rest of our lives (i.e. “Bespoke Squad” – to my friends, this inside joke is for you). For the summer, as absurdly profound and dumb as this may sound, I am also doing a “Party Weekend Streak (P.W.S)”. This P.W.S is currently going strong and I’m already on my 8th weekend in a row. My main rule for P.W.S is fairly straightforward: party at least once on the weekends until summer ends. My goal this summer is to reach 15 weekends of straight P.W.S. Just imagine what stories are there to be unfolded and future stories I could tell with my P.W.S!!!
Another reason why being single this summer is ideal for me is that this blog is going to require so much work and attention for the next 3 months. As I get busier in school in September, I will barely have time to blog and share my ideas. I’m building my blog as much as I can right now, knowing that I’ll eventually slow down once school begins. As a single person, I control so much more of my time. Given all the freedom I have, I can choose when to go out for a photoshoot, when to record, when to edit, when to write, and I have more flexibility with my time. If I was still in a committed relationship, I may have to adjust my time to my partner’s as well as to mine. Thus, it’s better that I’m currently single because my time is not shared with anyone else but me!!! Meaning, I can do absolutely whatever I want for the next 3 months without any boundaries or hinderance. Be ready for all the blogposts, videos, photos, collaborations, and ideas I have coming up!!! This summer, I’m releasing bangers after bangers, after bangers!!!
Lastly, I truly think that being single for the summer is what my heart and soul needs. I need to experience a summer of being an independent being without having any commitments to anyone. I need to be selfish this summer and just do things that I want. Since my past 5 years relationship, I had gone through 5 straight summers sharing it with the exact same person. Within those summers, I’ll admit that I lost track of the things I wanted to do as an individual. I don’t even know what it’s like to be single during Stampede (Calgary Festival that occurs annually in July) – I heard the parties are wild around this time in the city. What if I meet my next boo then? In addition, I want to fully realize my individual growth before I turn 22 years old this August 30th. I want to gift myself an awesome summer experience in which I know for certain I wouldn’t experience if I was in a relationship. Therefore, I will take my time this summer to experience all those selfish desires I’ve always had but never achieved. Simple desires such as: focusing on my hobbies (blogging, jogs, brunch dates, hiking etc.), celebrating life with the people I genuinely have fun with, and meeting new and exciting people that has the potential of changing my life for the best.
You see, a relationship does not prevent one in attaining all the points I mentioned of why being single for the summer is a great idea. But to most people, having a summer to experience the single life to its fullest is an opportunity we should take. In the future, once we find the right person for our love, we will have plenty of summers to share with him/her. So why rush it all?!? Take this summer now, and make it your own!!! Who knows, this could be your last summer as a single person. Maybe sometime next summer you’ll have someone to share all of this with. But for now, enjoy yourself and don’t ruin your own version of “Summer 2017”. If you want, you can join me in my P.W.S. or even create your own summer blog! Whatever it is, I hope you find yourself this summer. Enjoy your freedom, because you deserve it.
Mary Dezleigh Teodosio.